Marriage

Twenty-one years in.

Twenty-one years with the same person. It has been mostly good, occasionally very hard, and almost never dramatic. These are the small, unglamorous mechanics of staying close to someone for a long time.cs of staying close to someone for a long time.

Two pairs of hands with worn wedding rings holding mugs across a wooden table

Two pairs of hands with worn wedding rings holding ceramic mugs across a wooden table

MarriageJuly 8, 20266 min read

In defense of boring Tuesday nights

We stopped trying to have date nights and started having Tuesdays instead. Two mugs, one lamp on, nothing happening. It turns out that is the whole marriage.

Rumpled oatmeal linen bedding in early morning light with a book face down on the duvet

MarriageJanuary 27, 20264 min read

We argue better than we used to

Not less. Better. Shorter, kinder, and almost always about the thing we are actually upset about, which took us about fifteen years to learn.

More of the house: the whole journal, or the story of why I started writing it.